Tuesday, May 26, 2009

What is Love?

Trust? Care? Faith? Or what else ?

Well, I have come to the belief that it has to be nothing but “Centre of Attention (CoA)”. If you are the CoA of someone, then you can claim to be loved by that someone. Likewise, you reciprocate with ‘Love’ for whom you are CoA.

A couple of weeks ago, I spoke to a mother of 3 month old baby. She said, “It feels great to know that the baby wants none but me! I am loving every moment of being wanted". She loves the kid for she is the CoA for the baby that makes her feel wanted. The same would apply to the baby when it starts realizing that it is CoA for parents and ‘loves’ in return.

A time will come when for an individual, his/her immediate family, spouse and children, would mean more than any other relationship ( Parents, to be specific). If that has to happen, meaning to shift priorities, it has to be because of getting undivided attention from someone, and made felt as the most important person in one’s life.

Basically, to feel wanted is to be loved. If CoA shifts, Love drifts.

If one claims to love someone, one is doing no help/favor to that someone. One likes to seek attention, so much like others, and if he/she is the CoA of someone, love is indeed found in that someone.

Rags, let me tell you, I am doing no favor by loving you. In fact, I am thankful to you for making me feel wanted!

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Awesome writeup! :-)

I want to add something here.
LOVE is a function of ACCEPTANCE. Accepting someone the way they are and the way they are not!

-Pushpa

Rashmi Kantharaja said...

@Pushpa,
:) Indeed..